Read Titus 2:1-8,11-14, Ps. 37:3-4,18,23,27,29, Luke 17:7-10
“Bid the older men be temperate, serious, sensible, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Bid the older women likewise to be reverent in behavior, not to be slanderers or slaves to drink; they are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, chaste, domestic, kind, and submissive to their husbands, that the word of God may not be discredited. Likewise, urge the younger men to control themselves.” (Titus 2:2-6)
To be self-controlled is to be able to say “no” to the impulses of the flesh regardless of how strong the temptations may be. To be self-controlled is the ability to act right no matter what one feels inside.
Self-control or self-discipline is not something we acquire from the blues, it is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit; that is to say, self-control is one of the manifestations of the presence of the Holy Spirit in us. Hence, if we want to be more self-controlled, we must pray constantly for the outpouring of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
Reading through Paul’s letter to Titus, we can see that self-control is neither the exclusive reserve of the young or the old nor is it gender-specific. All humans regardless of age and position in life always stand in need of self-control.
Without self-control, one cannot be a leader. As St. Paul says: “show yourself in all respects a model of good deeds…” Jesus gave a parable in our Gospel passage to drive home the point that we should always see ourselves as humble servants. In essence, Jesus wants us to get rid of the “entitlement mentality.”
Even though the Bible contains a lot of promises, our worship of God does not give us an automatic ticket to receiving these promises. Yes, we must keep God’s commandments with all our heart but at the end of the day, we can only say: “We are unworthy servants. Again, it takes self-control to say “I don’t deserve anything, I am only a servant.
Hear what others have said about self-control. “You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations). “Never respond to an angry person with a fiery comeback, even if he deserves it... Don't allow his anger to become your anger.” (Bohdi Sanders, Warrior Wisdom)
“If you conquer yourself, then you conquer the world” (Paulo Coelho, Aleph). “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” (Lao Tzu). “Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself.” (Elie Wiesel).
If you lack self-control, it is not because you are powerless but because you have decided to divert your power to the wrong things. Every human being is powerful. God would not give us any commandments if He knew we are completely powerless against our bodily passions. As Christ speaks in the Ninth Station of the Cross: “My body cannot move. And yet, my will is mine, and so is yours. My child, this one thing is certain, your body may be broken, but no force on earth and none in hell can take away your will. Your will is yours.”
Let us pray: Heavenly Father, give me the grace to realize I have power over myself. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Be Happy. Live Positive. Have Faith. It is well with you. God bless you. (Tuesday of week 32 in Ordinary Time. Bible Study: Titus 2:1-8,11-14, Ps. 37:3-4,18,23,27,29, Luke 17:7-10)
© Rev. Fr. Evaristus Abu